Learning Goals
By the end of the lesson, you will be able to:
- Define the characteristics of friendship and long-term commitment using real-life examples.
- Differentiate friendship from long-term commitment by analyzing scenarios and guided activities.
- Evaluate personal behaviors that demonstrate love, trust, and respect in maintaining healthy relationships.
Key Ideas & Terms
- Friendship – A special relationship between two or more people who care for each other, share common interests, and provide mutual support.
- Long-Term Commitment – A lasting promise or decision to remain dedicated to another person, often in romantic relationships, built on loyalty and shared responsibility.
- Love – A deep feeling of affection and care for another person, shown through actions, words, and support in good and difficult times.
- Trust – The confidence that someone will act honestly, keep promises, and protect shared secrets or feelings.
- Respect – Valuing another person’s thoughts, feelings, and boundaries, and treating them with kindness and fairness.
Quick Recall / Prior Knowledge
Activity: Identify the Concept
Fill in the blanks with the correct term.
- __________ – Socially constructed characteristics of a man and a woman.
- __________ – How a person publicly expresses their gender.
- __________ – Categorization of male/female based on birth.
- __________ – Emotional or sexual attraction that a person feels towards another.
- __________ – A person’s sense of being a man or a woman.
Show Answer
- Gender
- Gender Expression
- Sex
- Sexual Orientation
- Gender Identity
Explore the Lesson
Day 1 – Characteristics of Friendship and Long-Term Commitment
Introduction
Friendship and long-term commitment are two of the most important aspects of human relationships. Both give meaning, support, and strength to our lives. In this lesson, you will explore what makes a friendship strong, how a long-term commitment is built, and why love, trust, and respect are the foundations of both.
Think about your own life: Who are the people you trust the most? Who do you go to when you feel happy or sad? Who are the people who have promised to stay by your side no matter what?
By the end of this lesson, you will not only understand these concepts better, but you will also be able to evaluate your own role as a friend and as someone capable of long-term commitment.
Section 1: Understanding Friendship
What is Friendship?
Friendship is one of the earliest relationships we form outside of our families. A friendship is a mutual relationship based on care, trust, and shared experiences. Unlike family bonds that are formed by birth, friendships are chosen.
Friends are the people you laugh with, share secrets with, or sometimes cry with. They are the people who accept you as you are, while also challenging you to grow.
Characteristics of Friendship
- Mutual Care – Both friends care about each other’s well-being.
- Trust – Secrets, emotions, and promises are kept safe.
- Respect – Each friend values the other’s feelings and boundaries.
- Shared Experiences – Enjoying activities, hobbies, or simply spending time together.
- Support – Being present during both happy and difficult times.
Guiding Question: What emotions do you usually share with your friends?
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People often share happiness, laughter, sadness, frustration, excitement, and even fear with friends. These emotions help strengthen the bond because friends see and accept each other in many life situations.Why is Friendship Important?
- Reduce stress by giving you someone to talk to.
- Improve self-esteem because you feel accepted.
- Encourage healthy habits (for example, exercising together, supporting academic goals).
- Teach communication, empathy, and problem-solving skills.
Mini-Summary: Friendship is a chosen relationship built on trust, respect, and care. It helps us grow emotionally and socially, while giving us happiness and support.
Section 2: Understanding Long-Term Commitment
What is Long-Term Commitment?
Unlike casual relationships, a long-term commitment is a promise to stay with someone or something for a long period of time. This could be in romantic relationships, family responsibilities, or even professional teamwork.
Long-term commitment is not only about feelings—it is about consistent actions and choices.
Characteristics of Long-Term Commitment
- Love – Caring for another person deeply, through good and bad times.
- Trust – Believing in one another’s loyalty and honesty.
- Respect – Valuing each other’s individuality, even when you disagree.
- Responsibility – Keeping promises and supporting each other.
- Consistency – Choosing the relationship every day, even when challenges arise.
Guiding Question: Why do you think people choose to commit to others for the long term?
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People commit long-term because of love, shared values, responsibility, and the desire to build something lasting—such as a family, a partnership, or a legacy.Why is Long-Term Commitment Important?
- Stability – A sense of security in knowing someone has your back.
- Growth – Opportunities to build long-term goals with others.
- Trustworthiness – It proves reliability in personal and professional life.
- Stronger Communities – Long-term commitments build stronger families and societies.
Mini-Summary: Long-term commitment is about making daily choices to stay loyal and supportive. It strengthens families, friendships, and communities by building trust and stability.
Section 3: Friendship vs. Long-Term Commitment
It’s easy to confuse the two because they share similar foundations—love, trust, and respect. However, there are differences.
| Aspect | Friendship | Long-Term Commitment |
|---|---|---|
| Duration | May last for months or years depending on circumstances | Intentionally built to last for many years or a lifetime |
| Focus | Companionship and support | Stability, loyalty, and shared responsibility |
| Responsibility | Less formal responsibility | Strong responsibility (family, financial, or emotional) |
| Choice | Based on shared interests and enjoyment | Based on shared values and long-term goals |
Guiding Question: Can a strong friendship lead to a long-term commitment? Why or why not?
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Yes, many long-term commitments (such as marriages or partnerships) often begin with friendship. However, not all friendships evolve into commitments because the level of responsibility and future planning required is much higher in commitments.Mini-Summary: Friendship and long-term commitment both rely on love, trust, and respect, but commitment involves greater responsibility and long-term decision-making.
Section 4: Real-Life Applications
In Sports
Athletes rely on friendship for teamwork and encouragement during games. A long-term commitment is shown in years of training and loyalty to a team.
In School
Friendship helps students support one another in academics. Commitment is seen in group projects where each member must consistently contribute.
In Families
Friendship between siblings strengthens family ties, while long-term commitment is shown in parents providing for their children.
In Community
Friendships build social networks, but long-term commitment builds organizations, volunteer groups, and community projects.
Checkpoint Question: Which is more important for success in a group project—friendship or long-term commitment? Explain.
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Both are important. Friendship helps group members work comfortably and communicate well. Long-term commitment ensures that everyone stays responsible and consistent until the project is completed.Section 5: Challenges and Maintaining Healthy Relationships
Common Challenges in Friendships
- Misunderstandings or lack of communication
- Betrayal of trust
- Growing apart due to different interests
Common Challenges in Long-Term Commitments
- Conflicts over responsibilities
- Loss of trust due to broken promises
- Stress from life changes
How to Maintain Both
- Communication – Always express your feelings respectfully.
- Forgiveness – Understand that mistakes happen, but effort must be shown to repair them.
- Respect Boundaries – Never force someone to do something they are not comfortable with.
- Consistency – Prove your loyalty through actions, not just words.
Guiding Question: Why do you think respect is considered one of the strongest foundations of both friendship and commitment?
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Without respect, trust and love cannot survive. Respect ensures that both individuals feel valued and safe, preventing abuse, betrayal, or neglect.Mini-Summary: Challenges exist in all relationships, but they can be managed with communication, respect, and forgiveness.
Section 6: Reflection and Personal Growth
Take a moment to think about your own life:
- Do you consider yourself a good friend?
- Can you be trusted with responsibilities in long-term commitments?
- How do you show love, trust, and respect in daily life?
Self-Check Question: Write down three qualities that make you a good friend and two qualities you want to improve on to be better in future commitments.
Final Mini-Summary: Friendship is a chosen bond based on trust, respect, and mutual support. Long-term commitment is a sustained promise to remain loyal and responsible. Both require love, trust, and respect as foundations and are strengthened by communication and consistency.
References
- Britannica. "Marriage."
- PsychCentral. "Personal Boundaries."
- HealthyPlace. "Parenting Skills & Strategies."
- Study.com. "Friendship Overview."
Example in Action
Worked Examples (Step-by-Step)
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Scenario: Your friend shares a personal secret with you but later someone pressures you to reveal it. What should you do to show friendship and commitment?
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Step 1: Identify the value at stake – trust.
Step 2: Recognize that sharing the secret would break your friend’s confidence.
Step 3: Choose loyalty to your friend, even if pressured.
✅ Answer: Do not reveal the secret. Protect your friend’s trust, because this is one of the foundations of friendship. -
Scenario: Two friends argue over money. One has borrowed many times but has not paid back. Is this still friendship or a problem in commitment?
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Step 1: Identify the issue – repeated borrowing without repayment shows lack of responsibility.
Step 2: Friendship must include respect and fairness.
Step 3: The borrower is violating trust and responsibility.
✅ Answer: This situation shows a problem in commitment, because one party is not honoring trust and responsibility. -
Scenario: A sports team has strong friendship bonds but one member always skips practice. Will the team succeed?
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Step 1: Recognize that friendship helps with encouragement and enjoyment.
Step 2: However, consistent training (commitment) is needed for success.
Step 3: One member’s lack of commitment may weaken the group.
✅ Answer: Friendship is important, but without long-term commitment (showing up for practice), the team will struggle to succeed. -
Scenario: Two childhood friends keep in touch even after moving to different cities. They regularly call and support each other. What values are they showing?
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Step 1: Identify the actions – staying connected and supportive.
Step 2: These actions show loyalty, consistency, and care.
✅ Answer: They are showing trust, respect, and love, which are key values of both friendship and long-term commitment. -
Scenario: In a group project, one student keeps all promises, submits work on time, and motivates others. Is this more of a friendship trait or commitment trait?
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Step 1: Analyze the behavior – reliability, consistency, and responsibility.
Step 2: These are characteristics of commitment.
Step 3: While friendship helps with teamwork, this example highlights accountability.
✅ Answer: This is a commitment trait, showing responsibility and consistency.
Now You Try
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Your friend spreads rumors about you, but later apologizes. Should you forgive them? Why or why not?
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Forgiveness is possible if the friend is genuinely sorry and works to rebuild trust. True friendship includes understanding and second chances, but boundaries should be set to prevent it from happening again. -
Your groupmate always jokes during serious discussions, making it hard to focus. How should you handle the situation without ruining the friendship?
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Respectfully tell them how their behavior affects the group’s work. Suggest a balance: focus during serious parts, then allow some fun after. This keeps respect while showing commitment. -
You promised to help a friend with homework but forgot. What should you do next?
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Admit your mistake, apologize sincerely, and make up for it by helping them at the next chance. Commitment means taking responsibility for your promises. -
Two friends argue because one prefers new hobbies while the other prefers old ones. How can they maintain their friendship despite differences?
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They can respect each other’s preferences, try both activities, or find common ground. Respecting differences keeps the friendship healthy. -
You and a friend want to start a small community clean-up project. Which matters more for success: your friendship or your commitment?
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Both are needed. Friendship provides teamwork and encouragement, while commitment ensures the project is completed responsibly and consistently.
Try It Out
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Define friendship in your own words.
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Friendship is a mutual relationship between people who care about each other, built on trust, respect, and shared experiences. -
Give two key characteristics of long-term commitment.
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Consistency (choosing the relationship daily) and responsibility (keeping promises and supporting each other). -
Your friend helps you during a tough exam week by encouraging and studying with you. Which value is this: love, trust, or respect?
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Love – shown through care, support, and encouragement during difficult times. -
In a group project, which matters more: friendship or commitment? Explain briefly.
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Commitment matters more because it ensures everyone fulfills responsibilities. Friendship helps, but without commitment, the project won’t succeed. -
True or False: “A friendship without trust can still be strong.”
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False. Without trust, friendship cannot survive because there will always be doubt and insecurity. -
Write one way you can show respect to your friends.
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Asking permission before using their things, listening to their opinions, and not spreading secrets are examples of respect. -
Give an example of a challenge in a long-term commitment.
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Conflicts about responsibilities, broken promises, or stress from major life changes. -
Your best friend moves to another city but you both still communicate online. What value are you both practicing?
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Consistency and loyalty. Staying connected shows effort to maintain the friendship despite distance. -
Fill in the blank: Friendship and long-term commitment are both based on ____, ____, and ____.
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Love, trust, and respect. -
Reflect: Write one way you can be a better friend and one way you can show commitment in your daily life.
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Example: Be a better friend by listening more attentively. Show commitment by finishing group tasks on time.
Check Yourself
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Multiple Choice
Which of the following is the best foundation of both friendship and long-term commitment?
a) Wealth b) Trust c) Popularity d) TalentShow Answer
b) Trust – Without trust, both friendship and long-term commitments will collapse. -
True or False
Friendship is always permanent and cannot be broken.Show Answer
False. Friendships may end if trust, respect, or care are lost. -
Identification
What do you call a relationship that is chosen, usually based on shared interests and mutual care?Show Answer
Friendship -
Multiple Choice
Which of the following shows long-term commitment?
a) Helping a friend with homework once
b) Staying loyal and responsible in a relationship for many years
c) Lending money without asking for repayment
d) Playing a game with friends after classShow Answer
b) Staying loyal and responsible in a relationship for many years -
Fill in the Blank
Friendship and long-term commitment are built on three values: ____, ____ and ____.Show Answer
Love, trust, and respect -
Scenario Question
Your classmate promises to contribute to your group project but fails to deliver multiple times. Which value is missing?Show Answer
Commitment (responsibility and consistency) is missing. -
Multiple Choice
Which of these is NOT a characteristic of a good friendship?
a) Loyalty b) Betrayal c) Respect d) SupportShow Answer
b) Betrayal – Betrayal destroys trust and cannot be considered a characteristic of good friendship. -
Matching Type
Column A Column B 1. Sharing secrets safely a. Respect 2. Consistency in promises b. Trust 3. Valuing others’ opinions c. Love 4. Providing support in tough times d. Commitment Show Answer
1 – b (Trust) • 2 – d (Commitment) • 3 – a (Respect) • 4 – c (Love) -
Identification
What is the term for a lasting relationship where people choose each other daily and take responsibility for one another?Show Answer
Long-term commitment -
True or False
Friendship can exist without respect as long as there is trust.Show Answer
False. Respect and trust must both exist for a healthy friendship. -
Multiple Choice
Which best describes the difference between friendship and long-term commitment?
a) Friendship is always short-term; commitment is always permanent.
b) Friendship requires less formal responsibility; commitment requires greater responsibility.
c) Friendship is based on blood ties; commitment is chosen.
d) Friendship is less enjoyable than commitment.Show Answer
b) Friendship requires less formal responsibility; commitment requires greater responsibility. -
Scenario Question
Maria and Ana have been friends since childhood. Even though they live far apart, they continue to talk regularly and support each other’s dreams. Which values are they practicing?Show Answer
Loyalty, consistency, and love -
Multiple Choice
Which is an example of respect in friendship?
a) Using your friend’s things without asking
b) Keeping your friend’s secrets safe
c) Interrupting your friend while speaking
d) Making fun of your friend’s mistakesShow Answer
b) Keeping your friend’s secrets safe -
Fill in the Blank
A true long-term commitment is not only about feelings but also about ____ and ____.Show Answer
Actions and choices -
Reflection Item
In your own words, explain why both friendship and long-term commitment are important for building a healthy community.Show Answer
Friendships connect individuals socially, providing support and encouragement. Long-term commitments create stability, responsibility, and trust that strengthen families and communities. Both are necessary for a balanced and caring society.
Go Further
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Interview a Friend: Ask what they value most in your friendship and how they show commitment to your bond.
Guidance
Compare perspectives. Note similarities (trust, support) and differences (honesty vs. loyalty). Aim to understand both sides. -
Story Reflection: Watch a film or read a story where friendship is tested. Identify the conflict, resolution, and values.
Guidance
Track how love, trust, and respect appear or break down. Connect your analysis to the lesson ideas. -
Commitment Plan: Create a plan for studies, sports, or family with a clear goal, daily actions, and consistency tracker.
Guidance
Choose realistic daily actions and track progress. Commitment is proven by consistent actions. -
Cultural Exploration: Research how friendships or commitments are valued in another culture and compare with your own.
Guidance
Highlight universal values (trust, loyalty) and cultural differences (arranged vs. free choice marriages, rituals, traditions). -
Creative Expression: Create a poem, song, or artwork expressing friendship and long-term commitment.
Guidance
Weave in love, trust, and respect as themes. Show how they appear in your daily life.
My Reflection
3-2-1 Response (Write in your notebook)
- 3 things you learned about friendship and long-term commitment
- 2 ways you can apply love, trust, and respect in your daily life
- 1 question you still have about building or maintaining healthy relationships
No answer key provided — this is a personal reflection.
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