By the end of the lesson, you will be able to:
- Identify appropriate personal boundaries in various social settings (school, home, online, and community).
- Demonstrate how to apply personal boundaries through role-playing and situational analysis.
- Evaluate the effects of respecting or ignoring personal boundaries in real-life situations.
- Application – putting knowledge into practice in real-life scenarios.
- Social Situation – interactions or events involving people at home, school, community, or online.
- Role-Playing – acting out situations to practice applying boundaries.
- Evaluation – assessing whether boundaries are respected or ignored.
- Consequences – the results of actions, either positive (respect, safety) or negative (conflict, stress).
Activity: Matching Type
Match the boundary to its correct description.
A. Physical boundary B. Emotional boundary C. Material boundary D. Time boundary E. Academic boundary
- Saying “no” when asked to do someone else’s homework.
- Asking a sibling to knock before entering your room.
- Refusing to share your secrets when you don’t feel comfortable.
- Setting a study schedule before going out with friends.
- Asking a friend to return the things they borrowed.
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- E (Academic boundary)
- A (Physical boundary)
- B (Emotional boundary)
- D (Time boundary)
- C (Material boundary)
Introduction
Every day, you face different social situations — at home with your family, at school with classmates and teachers, in your community with neighbors, and online with people you may not personally know. In all of these settings, one skill remains crucial: applying personal boundaries. Think of personal boundaries like an invisible shield. They protect your comfort, dignity, and safety. But a shield is only useful when you know how and when to use it. Applying boundaries means putting into practice what you’ve already learned about setting, communicating, and managing them.
Section 1: What Does “Applying Boundaries” Mean?
Learning about boundaries is the first step. Applying them means actually practicing them in real-life scenarios.
- Knowing that it’s wrong to let others copy your homework is understanding.
- Politely refusing and saying, “I can explain the lesson instead” is applying.
Application = Knowledge + Action
Guiding Question: Why is simply knowing about boundaries not enough?
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Because without action, boundaries remain unprotected. Application makes boundaries real and effective.Mini-Summary 1: Applying boundaries means turning knowledge into actions that protect respect and safety.
Section 2: Boundaries at Home
Home is the first place we practice boundaries. Respect in families means recognizing that even though you live under one roof, each person still deserves space, privacy, and respect.
- Personal Space: Asking siblings to knock before entering your room.
- Time Management: “I need to study first before I help with chores.”
- Respecting Property: Ask permission before borrowing clothes or gadgets.
- Emotional Boundaries: “I don’t like being teased about my mistakes.”
Guiding Question: Why is it important to set boundaries even with family members?
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Because boundaries ensure respect and prevent conflicts, even among loved ones.Mini-Summary 2: Home is where we first apply boundaries — in space, time, property, and emotions.
Section 3: Boundaries at School
School is a major setting for boundaries because you interact daily with classmates, teachers, and friends.
- Academic Integrity: Refuse to let others copy your work.
- Group Work: Ensure tasks are divided fairly.
- Respecting Teachers: Listen attentively and avoid disrupting class.
- Friendship Limits: Say no to peer pressure like skipping class or bullying others.
Scenario: A friend pressures you to skip class to hang out.
Application: “I can’t skip class. Let’s hang out after school instead.”
Guiding Question: How does applying boundaries in school protect your academic success?
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It keeps you focused on learning, prevents cheating, and encourages fair teamwork.Mini-Summary 3: Applying school boundaries promotes fairness, honesty, and focus.
Section 4: Boundaries in the Community
Your community involves neighbors, relatives, and people you meet in public spaces. Applying boundaries here means practicing courtesy and respect while also protecting yourself.
- Respecting Noise Levels: Politely remind neighbors if music is too loud.
- Borrowing and Lending: Set clear limits on lending things like bikes or books.
- Public Spaces: Ask for personal space when someone sits too close in a jeepney.
- Community Rules: Follow curfews or barangay rules and expect others to do the same.
Guiding Question: Why is applying boundaries in the community important for harmony?
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Because boundaries promote fairness, peace, and respect in shared spaces.Mini-Summary 4: Community boundaries keep order and prevent conflict.
Section 5: Boundaries Online
In today’s world, the online environment is as important as physical spaces. Social media, messaging apps, and online games are full of interactions that require boundaries.
- Privacy: Don’t share passwords or personal information.
- Respect in Communication: Avoid rude comments or cyberbullying.
- Time Boundaries: Limit screen time to balance school and rest.
- Content Boundaries: Avoid inappropriate websites or posts.
Scenario: A classmate asks for your social media password.
Application: “I don’t share my passwords with anyone. Please respect my privacy.”
Guiding Question: Why are online boundaries as important as physical boundaries?
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Because online interactions also affect safety, privacy, and respect.Mini-Summary 5: Online boundaries protect privacy, time, and respect in digital spaces.
Section 6: Role-Playing as Practice
One effective way to apply boundaries is through role-playing. By acting out scenarios, you prepare yourself for real-life situations.
- A neighbor borrows your bike but doesn’t return it on time.
- A classmate teases you about your accent.
- A friend pressures you to join in bullying someone.
- A sibling interrupts your study time.
Guiding Question: How does role-playing help in applying boundaries?
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It lets you practice assertive responses in a safe and guided way.Mini-Summary 6: Role-playing builds confidence to apply boundaries in real situations.
Section 7: Consequences of Respecting vs. Ignoring Boundaries
| When Boundaries Are Respected | When Boundaries Are Ignored |
|---|---|
| Healthy relationships; increased trust | Conflict and resentment |
| More confidence and fairness | Stress, discomfort, loss of respect |
| Harmony in group work | Unhealthy relationships |
Guiding Question: Which affects relationships more — respecting or ignoring boundaries? Why?
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Ignoring boundaries destroys trust and causes lasting conflicts; respecting them builds stronger bonds.Mini-Summary 7: Respect strengthens ties; ignoring limits weakens them.
Section 8: Real-Life Case Study (Arman)
Case: Arman always lends his notes to classmates. Over time they depend on him without effort and he feels used. Application: Arman starts saying, “I can help explain, but I won’t lend my notes.” Effect: Classmates learn responsibility; Arman feels respected.
Guiding Question: What is the lesson from Arman’s experience?
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Applying boundaries encourages fairness and prevents being taken advantage of.References
- DepEd MATATAG Curriculum Pilot Exemplar (2024–2025).
- Townsend, B. (2021). The Importance of Boundaries in Healthy Relationships. Psychology Today.
- Pataky, C. (2023). Understanding and Respecting Boundaries. Love Discovery Institute.
- Kidpower International. (2022). Personal Boundaries and Safety Skills for Children and Teens.
Worked Example 1
Scenario: Your classmate asks you to give your test answers.
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Boundary: Academic boundary. Response: “I can’t give my answers, but I can help you review after the test.”Worked Example 2
Scenario: Your sibling enters your room without knocking.
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Boundary: Physical boundary. Response: “Please knock before entering my room. I need my privacy.”Worked Example 3
Scenario: A friend pressures you to skip class for a game.
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Boundary: Academic/time boundary. Response: “I can’t skip class. Let’s play after school.”Worked Example 4
Scenario: Your neighbor borrows your bike but never returns it on time.
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Boundary: Material boundary. Response: “Please return my bike right after borrowing it. I need it for school.”Worked Example 5
Scenario: Someone online keeps asking for your personal information.
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Boundary: Online/digital boundary. Response: “I don’t share personal details online. Please stop asking.”Now You Try
Task 1: A friend keeps teasing you about your height.
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“I don’t like those jokes. Please stop.”Task 2: Your cousin wants you to do all the chores while they play.
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“Let’s divide the chores so it’s fair.”Task 3: Your groupmate dominates decisions in a project.
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“Let’s hear everyone’s ideas before deciding.”Task 4: Someone posts your photo online without permission.
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“Please remove my photo. I didn’t give permission to post it.”Task 5: A classmate pressures you to join in bullying someone.
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“I won’t do that. It’s wrong and unfair.”- Your seatmate keeps leaning too close to you during class. What should you say?
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“Can you please give me more space? I feel uncomfortable when it’s too close.” - Your friend always borrows your notebook but never returns it. How do you respond?
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“Please return my notebook after borrowing. I also need it for my lessons.” - Your sibling interrupts you while you are reviewing for a test. How do you manage the boundary?
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“I need quiet time to review. Please let me study first.” - Your groupmate asks you to do all the research while they do nothing. How do you handle it?
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“We need to divide the research tasks fairly so everyone contributes.” - A stranger in a jeepney tries to peek at your phone screen. What do you do?
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Move your phone away or say, “Please don’t look at my phone.” - Your classmate pressures you to lie to the teacher about homework. How do you apply a boundary?
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“I can’t lie to the teacher. It’s wrong and unfair.” - Your neighbor plays loud music late at night. What boundary should you set?
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“Can you please lower the volume? It’s already late and people are resting.” - A classmate spreads rumors about you online. How do you respond?
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“Please stop posting false things about me. It’s disrespectful.” - Your cousin borrows your phone and installs apps without permission. How do you handle it?
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“Please don’t install apps on my phone. It’s personal, and I need to keep it safe.” - Your teammate forces you to practice even when you are sick. How do you set your boundary?
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“I can’t practice now because I’m sick. I’ll join when I recover.”
Part A: Conceptual (Multiple Choice)
- What does “applying boundaries” mean?
a. Only thinking about your boundaries b. Forcing others to follow your rules c. Practicing boundaries in real-life situations d. Ignoring limitsShow Answer
c. Practicing boundaries in real-life situations - Which is an example of applying a boundary at school?
a. Cheating on a test b. Refusing to let others copy your answers c. Skipping class to play d. Ignoring classmates during group workShow Answer
b. Refusing to let others copy your answers - Which is an online boundary?
a. Sharing your password b. Spending unlimited time online c. Keeping your personal information private d. Posting someone’s photo without permissionShow Answer
c. Keeping your personal information private - What happens when boundaries are ignored?
a. More trust and respect b. Less stress and harmony c. Conflict and resentment d. Stronger friendshipsShow Answer
c. Conflict and resentment - Which setting is an example of community boundaries?
a. Saying no to copying homework b. Asking neighbors to lower loud music c. Refusing to overshare online d. Dividing group tasks fairlyShow Answer
b. Asking neighbors to lower loud music
Part B: Identification
- This method lets students act out scenarios to practice boundary application.
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Role-playing - The results of respecting or ignoring boundaries are called ________.
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Consequences - Saying “Please remove my photo online” is applying a boundary in what setting?
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Online/digital setting - Dividing chores fairly with your cousin applies what boundary type?
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Time and fairness boundary - Politely asking a jeepney passenger for space shows what kind of boundary?
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Physical boundary
Part C: Application (Situational)
- A friend pressures you to share a secret you don’t want to reveal. How do you apply your boundary?
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“I’m not comfortable sharing that. Please respect my privacy.” - Your classmate posts a picture of you online without permission. What boundary is crossed, and what should you do?
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Online/digital boundary. Ask them to remove it immediately. - Your sibling insists on borrowing your things without returning them. What should you say?
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“Please return the things you borrow on time. I also need them.” - Your groupmate forces you to accept their decision in a project. How do you respond?
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“We should all share ideas and decide together.” - Your neighbor constantly disturbs you during your study time. What boundary should you apply?
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“Please allow me to study first. I’ll talk after I finish.”
Extension Activity 1: Role-Play with a Partner – choose a setting (home, school, community, online) and act out how to apply a boundary respectfully.
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Example: A classmate pressures you to cheat. Response: “I won’t cheat. Let’s study together instead.”Extension Activity 2: Boundary Journal – write 3 recent situations where you applied or failed to apply a boundary and what you learned.
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Entries: saying no to lending gadgets, refusing peer pressure, or not speaking up and what you’ll try next time.Extension Activity 3: Poster or Infographic – create a visual reminder about applying boundaries in daily life.
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Slogans: “Boundaries Build Respect” • “Say No When Needed” • “Respect Space, Respect People.”Extension Activity 4: Interview Task – ask a parent/teacher/community leader: “Why are personal boundaries important in social life?” Share the answer in class.
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Common answers: promotes respect, prevents conflicts, encourages fairness.Extension Activity 5: Media Critique – watch a short film or online video; identify if boundaries were applied or ignored and explain the results.
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Example: A character ignores a friend’s privacy, causing conflict; respecting boundaries prevents problems.Task: Use the Short Writing Method in your notebook.
Prompt: “Think about a time when you respected someone else’s boundary or when someone respected yours. How did it affect your relationship? Write at least one paragraph explaining the situation and its effect.”
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