Every day, you make choices that affect you and the people around you. In this lesson, you will learn how to pause, weigh consequences, and choose actions that show respect and responsibility. You will practice using values, empathy, and self-control when situations feel confusing or pressured. You will also learn how intentions and outcomes can differ, and how wise choices help build trust in your family, school, and community.
🎯 Learning Goals
By the end of the lesson, you will be able to:
- Identify at least three factors that make a choice moral or immoral (values, rights, harm, fairness).
- Use a 4-step decision guide to analyze a situation and predict at least two possible consequences.
- Write a short action plan that shows respect and responsibility in a real-life scenario.
🧩 Key Ideas & Terms
- Moral choice – a decision that considers what is right and good for oneself and others.
- Values – guiding beliefs (respect, honesty, fairness, compassion, responsibility).
- Consequence – what happens after a choice (short-term and long-term results).
- Intention – what you meant to do.
- Impact – the effect your action has on others, even if you did not intend it.
- Empathy – understanding how another person may feel.
- Peer pressure – influence from friends or groups that pushes you to act a certain way.
- Accountability – owning your choices and making amends when needed.
🔄 Quick Recall / Prior Knowledge
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What does respect look like in a classroom?
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Examples: listening without interrupting, using kind words, respecting personal space, following agreed rules, and valuing others’ opinions.
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What is one example of responsibility at home?
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Examples: doing chores without being reminded, caring for siblings, being honest about mistakes, and managing time for study.
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What is the difference between intention and impact?
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Intention is what you meant. Impact is what actually happened to others. A person can mean well but still cause harm.
📖 Explore the Lesson
Read each checkpoint slowly. Pause to write short notes in your notebook before opening the suggested answers.
Checkpoint 1: What Makes a Choice “Moral”?
Mini-goal: Recognize the signs of a moral choice and the signs of a harmful choice.
Guided discussion: A moral choice is not only about what you want. It also considers people’s rights, safety, feelings, and dignity. Sometimes a choice seems “small,” like teasing a classmate or sharing a private message. But even small actions can build or break trust. When you decide, ask: “Does this respect others?” “Is it fair?” “Could it hurt someone?” “Would I be proud if an adult I respect saw this?” These questions help you see beyond the moment.
Real-life tie-in: Think about group chats. A student might share a screenshot “just for fun.” The intention may be humor, but the impact can be embarrassment, conflict, or bullying. Moral choices protect people’s dignity, especially when others are not present to defend themselves.
Mini-summary: Moral choices protect dignity and reduce harm. They balance your needs with others’ rights and feelings.
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Which values are easiest for you to practice (respect, honesty, fairness, compassion, responsibility)? Why?
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Answers will vary. A strong answer names one value and gives a real example of when you practice it.
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Give one example where intention is good but impact is harmful.
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Example: making a “joke” about someone’s appearance to be funny, but the person feels ashamed and excluded.
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What is one sign that a choice might be unfair?
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A sign of unfairness is when one person benefits by taking away another person’s chance, safety, privacy, or dignity.
Checkpoint 2: The 4-Step Decision Guide
Mini-goal: Use a simple guide to slow down and choose wisely.
Guided discussion: When emotions are strong, choices become fast and careless. A short guide helps you pause. Try this 4-step decision guide: (1) Stop and name the situation. (2) Think of choices you could make (at least two). (3) Predict consequences for each choice (short-term and long-term). (4) Choose the action that best matches your values and reduces harm. This guide is not about being perfect. It is about being thoughtful.
Real-life tie-in: Imagine you see a classmate being mocked. Your choices might include: join the laughter, stay silent, change the topic, support the classmate, or tell a trusted adult. The consequences are different. Joining may gain quick approval but causes harm. Supporting the classmate may feel risky but builds courage and trust over time.
Mini-summary: A decision guide helps you pause, compare consequences, and choose actions that match your values.
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Why is “Stop” the first step, especially when you feel angry or pressured?
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Stopping creates space between feeling and acting. It reduces impulsive choices that you may regret later.
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In the “Predict” step, why should you think about long-term consequences too?
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Long-term consequences include damaged trust, broken friendships, school discipline, or guilt—effects that last longer than the moment.
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Write one situation where this guide could help you this week.
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Examples: dealing with gossip, deciding whether to copy homework, handling conflict in a group project, or responding to online messages.
Checkpoint 3: Consequences You Can’t See Right Away
Mini-goal: Understand hidden consequences: trust, identity, and reputation.
Guided discussion: Some consequences are immediate: someone cries, a teacher gets angry, a friendship breaks. Other consequences are hidden: trust becomes weaker, your reputation changes, and your self-respect shifts. A student who lies “once” may find it easier to lie again. A student who protects others’ dignity may become someone people rely on. In values education, we care about what your choices build inside you, not only what happens outside.
Ask yourself: “What kind of person does this choice train me to become?” Your habits shape your identity. If you often choose kindness under pressure, you train courage. If you often choose silence when others are harmed, you train avoidance. Both create consequences, even if no one talks about them.
Real-life tie-in: In a friend group, one person starts spreading a rumor. If everyone stays silent, the rumor grows. Later, the group feels unsafe because anyone could be targeted next. Silence can feel “neutral,” but it can still protect harmful behavior.
Mini-summary: Consequences include visible results and hidden effects like trust, reputation, and self-respect.
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Why can “staying silent” sometimes be a harmful choice?
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Silence can allow harm to continue. It may signal approval to the person doing wrong and leave the victim feeling alone.
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Describe a time when trust was gained or lost because of a choice.
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Answers vary. A strong answer explains the action (truth-telling, keeping a secret, breaking a promise) and how it changed the relationship.
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What “hidden consequence” matters most to you: trust, reputation, or self-respect? Explain briefly.
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Answers vary, but the explanation should connect the chosen consequence to daily life (friends, family, school, online spaces).
Checkpoint 4: Respect and Responsibility as Decision Filters
Mini-goal: Use respect and responsibility as “filters” to test your choices.
Guided discussion: When choices feel complicated, use two strong filters: Respect and Responsibility. Respect asks: “Does this protect dignity?” Responsibility asks: “Am I owning my role, my words, and my impact?” These filters help you avoid excuses like “Everyone does it” or “I didn’t mean it.” A responsible person accepts that actions have effects, even when intentions are good.
Try a quick test. For any choice you are considering, answer these questions: (1) Would this embarrass or harm someone if it became public? (2) Am I using someone as a joke or a tool? (3) Am I avoiding work that is mine to do? (4) If I make a mistake, am I willing to repair the harm? A “yes” to harm or avoidance is a warning sign.
Real-life tie-in: In group work, one member may do all the tasks while others “agree” but do nothing. It may look harmless because the project still finishes. But it builds unfairness, stress, and resentment. Responsibility means sharing work and being honest about what you can do.
Mini-summary: Respect protects dignity. Responsibility owns your role and your impact. Together, they guide wiser choices.
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Which filter is harder for you in real life: respect or responsibility? Why?
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Answers vary. A strong answer names a real challenge (anger, fear of rejection, laziness, pressure) and how it affects choices.
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Give one example of a “small” action that shows respect.
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Examples: asking permission before borrowing, using polite words, listening fully, not sharing private information.
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Give one example of repairing harm after a poor choice.
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Examples: apologizing sincerely, correcting misinformation, replacing something broken, or changing behavior and making a plan.
Checkpoint 5: Handling Peer Pressure Without Losing Yourself
Mini-goal: Practice strategies for choosing well when others push you.
Guided discussion: Peer pressure can be loud or quiet. Loud pressure says, “Do it now!” Quiet pressure says, “If you don’t do it, you won’t belong.” To handle pressure, prepare simple strategies: (1) Pause—buy time: “Let me think.” (2) Refuse clearly: “No, I’m not doing that.” (3) Offer an alternative: “Let’s do something else.” (4) Exit—walk away or change the setting. (5) Ask for support from a trusted person. These are not signs of weakness. They are signs of self-control.
Also, notice your “trigger moments.” Are you more pressured when you feel left out? When you want to impress someone? When you are angry? Naming the trigger helps you plan. You can even practice a short sentence before you need it. Prepared words are powerful in stressful moments.
Real-life tie-in: A friend asks you to post an insulting comment about another student. You may want to fit in. But the consequences can include disciplinary action, guilt, and harm to a person’s well-being. A prepared response like, “I’m not joining that. Let’s stop,” protects you and others.
Mini-summary: Peer pressure is easier to handle when you plan your words, know your triggers, and choose actions that protect dignity.
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Which strategy fits your personality best: pause, refuse, alternative, exit, or ask support?
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Answers vary. The best strategy is the one you can actually use in real life.
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Write one sentence you can use to refuse respectfully.
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Examples: “No, that’s not right.” “I’m not comfortable with that.” “Let’s not do that to someone.”
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Why does “offering an alternative” sometimes work better than arguing?
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Because it changes the situation quickly. It gives the group a new direction without creating a fight.
Checkpoint 6: A Simple Moral Choice Map
Mini-goal: Create a one-page map you can reuse for future decisions.
Guided discussion: To draft wiser actions, build a “moral choice map” you can reuse. Draw a box in your notebook with four parts: Situation, Choices, Consequences, and Best next step. In Situation, write what is happening (facts only). In Choices, list at least two actions you could take. In Consequences, write two results for each choice (one short-term and one long-term). In Best next step, choose the action that best matches respect and responsibility and explain why in one sentence.
This map helps when situations are emotionally heavy. It turns “I don’t know what to do” into “Here are my options, and here is what they lead to.” Over time, you will notice patterns: certain choices create peace, trust, and growth; other choices create conflict, fear, and regret.
Real-life tie-in: Use the map for a real situation: a friend wants you to keep a harmful secret, someone is being bullied online, or you are tempted to copy homework. The map helps you act with courage and care, not only with impulse.
Mini-summary: A moral choice map helps you list options, predict consequences, and select the best action based on respect and responsibility.
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Why is it important to write “facts only” in the Situation box?
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Facts prevent exaggeration. They help you see the real problem and avoid decisions based only on assumptions.
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What is one long-term consequence people often forget to consider?
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Long-term consequences include damaged reputation, broken trust, guilt, or patterns of harmful behavior that become habits.
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Write your “Best next step” sentence for one situation you face at school.
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Example: “I will refuse to share the screenshot because it violates privacy and harms dignity.”
💡 Example in Action
Read each situation. Notice how the decision guide leads to a respectful, responsible choice.
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Gossip in a group chat: A friend shares a private rumor and asks you to forward it.
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Best choice: Do not forward. Ask them to stop. If harm continues, seek help from a trusted adult.
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Copying homework: A classmate asks for your answers to submit as their own.
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Best choice: Refuse to give answers, but offer help explaining the lesson or solving one item together.
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Teasing “as a joke”: Friends laugh at someone’s mistake and want you to join.
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Best choice: Do not join. Change the topic or support the person: “It happens. Let’s move on.”
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Group work unfairness: One member does nothing, and others are frustrated.
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Best choice: Speak calmly, assign clear tasks, and agree on a fair plan. If needed, involve the teacher early.
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Online insult: You are angry and want to post a harsh comment.
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Best choice: Pause. Do not post while emotional. Choose a respectful message or talk privately later.
Why: Online actions last and can harm reputations and relationships.
📝 Try It Out
Answer in your notebook. Then check the suggested answers.
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List 3 values that can guide moral choices.
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Respect, honesty, responsibility, fairness, compassion (any three).
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Write the 4 steps of the decision guide in order.
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Stop → Think (choices) → Predict (consequences) → Choose (best action).
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Give one short-term consequence and one long-term consequence of spreading gossip.
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Short-term: someone gets embarrassed. Long-term: trust breaks and friendships become unsafe.
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Situation: You saw someone drop money in the hallway. What is the most respectful action?
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Return it to the person or bring it to a teacher/lost-and-found and help locate the owner.
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Situation: Your friend pressures you to skip class. Write one respectful refusal sentence.
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“No, I’m going to class. I don’t want to risk my learning or get in trouble.”
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Write one “alternative” you can offer when refusing a harmful plan.
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“Let’s do something else,” “Let’s talk about something different,” or “Let’s work on our task instead.”
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Explain in 1–2 sentences why intention and impact both matter.
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You can mean well, but your action can still hurt others. Moral choices consider both what you meant and what happened.
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Create a moral choice map for a situation you faced recently (Situation, Choices, Consequences, Best next step).
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Your map should include facts, at least two choices, two consequences per choice, and one best action linked to a value.
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Name one trigger that makes you more likely to make a poor choice.
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Examples: anger, embarrassment, fear of being left out, wanting approval, stress.
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Write one repair action if you hurt someone with words.
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Apologize specifically, correct the harm if possible (e.g., clarify the truth), and change behavior.
✅ Check Yourself
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Multiple choice: A moral choice mostly considers…
a) only what you want b) what is right for you and others c) what is easiest d) what is popularShow Answer
b)
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True/False: If your intention is good, the impact does not matter.
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False.
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Short answer: What does accountability mean?
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Owning your choices and their impact, and making amends when needed.
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Multiple choice: Which is a respectful refusal?
a) “You’re stupid.” b) “No, I won’t do that.” c) “Fine, whatever.” d) “I’ll do it but don’t tell.”Show Answer
b)
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Short answer: Give one long-term consequence of cheating.
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Loss of trust, weaker learning, repeated dishonesty, or discipline.
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True/False: Peer pressure can be quiet, not only loud.
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True.
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Multiple choice: In the decision guide, “Predict” means…
a) guess a random answer b) think of consequences for each choice c) blame others d) ignore feelingsShow Answer
b)
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Short answer: Why can silence be harmful in bullying situations?
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It can allow harm to continue and makes the target feel alone.
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Multiple choice: Which best shows responsibility in group work?
a) letting others do everything b) doing your part and being honest about tasks c) taking credit alone d) ignoring deadlinesShow Answer
b)
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Short answer: Name one decision filter from today.
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Respect or responsibility.
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True/False: A moral choice always feels easy.
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False.
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Multiple choice: Which action best protects dignity online?
a) sharing screenshots without permission b) posting insults when angry c) keeping private messages private d) joining hurtful jokesShow Answer
c)
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Short answer: What is one way to repair harm after a poor choice?
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Apologize, correct misinformation, replace damage, and change behavior.
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Short answer: Write one sentence that shows empathy.
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Example: “I can see why that hurt you, and I’m sorry for my words.”
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Reflection check: Which step (Stop/Think/Predict/Choose) do you skip most often?
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Answers vary. Many learners skip “Stop” or “Predict.” The best next step is to practice that step intentionally.
🚀 Go Further
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Create a personal “refusal script” card with 3 sentences you can use under pressure.
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Teacher guidance: Encourage learners to practice the scripts aloud in pairs and reflect on which feels natural and respectful.
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Interview a trusted adult about a moral choice they made as a teen and what they learned.
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Teacher guidance: Ask learners to summarize the adult’s values, the consequences, and the lesson learned in 6–8 sentences.
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Write two endings to the same scenario: one careless choice and one moral choice. Compare consequences.
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Teacher guidance: Highlight how small choices change trust, safety, and relationships over time.
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Create a classroom “values wall” with examples of respect and responsibility from real experiences.
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Teacher guidance: Use anonymous examples to protect privacy; focus on actions, not names.
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Design a short peer-support plan for handling online conflict without humiliation or revenge.
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Teacher guidance: Emphasize safety, calm communication, and seeking adult support when needed.
🔗 My Reflection
Notebook task: Write 8–10 sentences.
- Describe one real situation where you had to choose between what was easy and what was right.
- Use the 4-step decision guide to explain what you did (or what you wish you did).
- Name one value you want to strengthen this week, and write one action that proves it.
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